When you are a full-time mother, worker, and/or wife, then you are sure stretching yourself every now and then. As a young working mother with only one child, I am still able to juggle work, household duties, my daughter, and life….but I do not expect thesame for a mother of two or more. I once babysat for a friend who also happens to be a working mother and needed some alone time with her husband, the experience was an eye-opener. I had to keep an eye on both toddlers, prepare dinner, prepare for work the next day, and at thesame time reading stories to the girls. It was the most humbling experience and to think that my mother raised six children *sigh*. Recently, a blogger (Megan Francis), have been reprimanded for offering housekeeping advice but just recently voiced that she indeed hired help twice a month to help deal with the craziness in her life. Megan is a mother of five, and her husband works out of town which means Megan is dealing with five kids on her own during the day. Bear in mind, she also works from home and brings in 50% of the household income.
What is wrong with 6 to 8 hours of cleaning service to help regain one’s sanity? And why can’t she offer cleaning advice if she has the expertise? I don’t suppose her house is in pure chaos for the rest of the 28 days when the cleaning lady is off-duty, bear in mind, five kids! I think that everyone expects that if a woman can work, then she should have the energy to perform all her duties in the home. But of course if this was a man who works day and night and hires a cleaning maid, this won’t be an issues. We are all indeed hypocrites. Any working mother claiming to doing it all is an hypocrite. We all know that we have at some point hired a nanny, a maid, a friend or even family to help cover up for us. I wrote a couple of months ago about doing work that matters and if mopping the floor and cleaning the bathroom is not exactly value-adding, then by all means outsource.
I think that we should hire help whenever we need it. I believe that “doing it all” is a myth. I believe that working mothers should focus on their careers, family and value-added activities if that is what makes them happy. What do you think? Do you have a helper?