After so many research and insights on the situation of working mothers, it is quite unfortunate that the government and corporations are not going to solve our problem or dilemma. You will not get a holiday for bringing in half of the income in your household plus managing your home, taking care of the chores and caring for your kid(s) and husband. Our society has simply failed to realize that the demands of some jobs in this country are simply incompatible with a young family. This is quite frustrating for an over-achieving woman with high level of passion and a strong sense of purpose. With the economy taking a nose-dive, more women are staying in their jobs to keep the family afloat. And with this comes a high level of stress and a huge mental demand. Before we get into designing the life you want, I want you to re-commit to yourself. Because work-life balance is not about the physical things, it is emotional. In reality, there is no balance. An 8-10 hour working day does not equal a 3-4 hour spent with four kids during dinner and homework. It takes more than the physical productivity tool to achieve work-life balance.
Re-Commit To Yourself
1. Take Care of Your Body – Spiritual, physical and mental health is a high necessity for a working mother. If you are going to work 8 to 10 hours per day, then you need to schedule time to sleep, exercise, groom, eat healthy and take regular breaks. \
2. Remain Connected – Maintain relationships, friendships and social bonds; friends that will keep you sane and will cheer you on when you are down. Schedule a lunch date, invite family over, take walks and have fun doing it. Life is too short.
3. Disconnect – Learn to disconnect from stress, the unimportant.
4. Rinse and Repeat.
Now, Design Your Life
If you fail to plan, you plan to fail – Anonymous
Back when I was a process engineer, we have standard operating procedures for operating a piece of equipment. An operating procedure helps you better understand your routine, minimizes error, maximizes production and typically becomes an automatic process. This mindset has helped many working mothers to achieve some type of balance in both mind, body and spirit. An operating plan for your work, an operating plan for your household could really put things in perspective. It helps you assess and analyze your daily tasks, minimize waste and maximize productivity. Your weekly operating plan should include time, date and resources needed to activate and accomplish the goal for the week.
Components of a Daily Operating Plan
- Tasks (Work To-Do List, Meetings, Conference Calls, etc.)
- Activities (Swimming classes, Exercise, Lunch, Dinner)
- Kids (Homework, Wellness visits, Shopping,etc.)
- Meals (Recipes, Grocery List, etc.)
- Doctor’s Visits (Date, Time, etc.)
- Pay Bills
- Miscellaneous (Feel free to add yours)
What other tools have you used in designing a balanced life?